are several icons that you can use as a "buddy icon" for
different instant messaging programs. Right click on a buddy icon you
like below, then click save as, and save it to your computer. Then...
On AOL Instant Messenger, click on "My AOL" at the top of
your buddy list. Then select "Edit Options", then "Edit Preferences".
In "Edit Preferences", in the side menu select,
"Buddy Icons". Then select "MY Buddy Icon" and
click "Browse PC" and select the icon below that you saved
to your computer.